Pickup Artist University

Random thoughts for today…

This game can take a lot out of you, if you let it. Physically,
I mean.

Think about it. To get the skill set under your belt, you have to
go out and practice. A lot. That means you’re spending a lot of
time in smoky bars and clubs, maybe you’re drinking, you’re
staying up until the wee hours of the morning. And if you have
a day job, it can start to exact a toll.

Then, when you start getting good, you add all these random
makeouts into the mix, swapping saliva with girls, and it’s a
recipe for a compromised immune system.

Not to be alarmist, but this is just a reality of the game. What
we call “high quality problems,” but still.

I’m not saying you’re gonna come down with West Nile virus here,
but you can pick up an annoying tickle in the throat quite
easily under these conditions. And with the importance of [read more...]

Today’s one of those days where I have a LOT of errands to run
and I don’t want to do them.

I’ve gotta go get a haircut, because I’m starting to develop
what appears to be some sort of mullet-like hair creature on my
head. My sideburns have grown from stylish “chops” into whole
“sides of beef.” I mean, they look like 10 gallon shrubs
sprouting off of my cheeks.

I look like a low-rent, tubby Wolverine with a mullet. And a
Journey t-shirt.

So it’s off to the haircut shop. But right this second, I’m
feeling too lazy to get up and go outside.

So I’m going to procrastinate by writing a newsletter instead.

Today I want to explore further the ideas of “being congruent”
and “living in the moment.”

These are very important concepts, and if you want to achieve
success in this arena, they are, quite frankly, [read more...]

It’s time for some good old-fashioned Q&A with your pal Jeffy as
I dig through the RSD mailbag once more. You know the drill, let’s
hit it…

*** QUESTION ***

Hey Jeffy,

I’m a 24 yr old guy from melbourne australia, have a 2nd date on
Tuesday night.

Met the girl through a friend - she said she was interested to
see me.

1st date didn’t go to plan… I was very tired… didn’t say
anything exciting very unimpressed with how i went… but when
we parted she said she had a nice time.

I sent her a msg the next day (I know that is bad) apologised for
my lack of talk and said I though she was pretty cute (cringes)…
she wrote back 1 word… ‘thanks’

Anyways my friend caught up with her and convinced her to send me
a text asking to go out again.  So… I thought [read more...]

So check it out. I’ve been thinking a lot lately about what makes
a successful pickup. What I mean by that is: what are the
common threads in every successful approach I’ve done?

As I said, I thought about this a lot. Then I thought some more.
Was it proper execution of fundamentals? Yeah, but that sort of
goes without saying. Was it some inner game secret? Nah, too
ephemeral, I’m looking for something concrete.

Eventually, I just got pissed off and threw the television out
the front window.

“Screw all this,” I thought, “This is too much thinking.”

That’s when it hit me. The common thread to all my successful
pickups:

ABSENCE OF THOUGHT.

That’s right. No thinking.

In all of my most spectacular successes, I was living completely
in the moment, without concern for “the next move” or “what to
say” or any of [read more...]

I’ve been having sort of a rough day, so you’ll forgive me if I
indulge in a little self-adulation this time around. My cats got
fleas and now they’re pissed at me because I put the flea
medicine on them. I also cut one of my girls loose this afternoon
because she wasn’t living up to my standards.

Yeah, even the ‘great’ jlaix has problems with women from time
to time. The difference, however, is that I won’t tolerate
it when women behave in a manner that’s unhealthy for me to be
around. The old me would put up with a lot of crap from girls,
because I was so scared to let go, to be alone.

Now that I’ve learned these skills, making the right decision in
a relationship has become a great deal easier, because I’m not
coming from a scarcity frame anymore. Do I feel a twinge of
sadness when I break off a relationship?

Sure, that’s normal. [read more...]

Reader, how’s it going.

Welcome back to the Real Social Dynamics newsletter. This time,
I’m gonna go through the mailbag and hand-pick some letters from
readers just like you. Okay, maybe not JUST LIKE YOU, but close
enough.

Our first letter comes from Mark, who has a very interesting
and unique question.

*** QUESTION ***

I don’t understand, why do you have to meet many women in order
to be good at getting them? Can’t you just pick one very cool
girl and practice to her? Like in making interesting conversations
with women, why do you have to practice on many when you can
converse every day with a single girl, and check her reactions?

Thanks,

Mark

>>>>>> MY REPLY:

Interesting idea, Mark.

Unfortunately, “practicing” on one girl and then thinking you’re
a master of seduction is like conducting a poll by asking [read more...]